That has been an exciting month at my first job. New faces all around, new people, younger and older, from different states, speaking different languages, and many new friends at the end of the month. But my friends are not of the category I used to have and neither are they of the type I used to prefer. I now don't seem to have a power to "choose" my friends. They just happen. Of all the people I talk with, some are interesting, easy to open any topic and talk, argue, discuss while I really need to think hard what to talk next with some people.
At school and college it used to be different. My friends were as studious or as dumb as me. We were from more or less the same background, I don't remember having friends who were richer or poorer to compare. Most of them spoke the same tongue, thought the same way, had values of same degree as I did. When I now see people with different views, habits, behaviour, character, both good and bad, I start thinking if the proverb still valid. Atleast I don't seem to think so. My friends are quite different from me. They are different in every train of thought, way of life, values they hold (or prefer not to hold). It was when I was asked why I am being a silent spectator of whatever wrong my friend was doing that I realized that I have changed. I have started accepting people as what they are rather than trying to point them to whatever is right. I feel most of us have become like this. We avoid talks that brings out the difference in opinions. We are at our best when left alone, when our mistakes aren't pointed. We dont want others, even the so called friends giving us suggestions. But am I doing anything about it ? Unfortunately, No.
At school and college it used to be different. My friends were as studious or as dumb as me. We were from more or less the same background, I don't remember having friends who were richer or poorer to compare. Most of them spoke the same tongue, thought the same way, had values of same degree as I did. When I now see people with different views, habits, behaviour, character, both good and bad, I start thinking if the proverb still valid. Atleast I don't seem to think so. My friends are quite different from me. They are different in every train of thought, way of life, values they hold (or prefer not to hold). It was when I was asked why I am being a silent spectator of whatever wrong my friend was doing that I realized that I have changed. I have started accepting people as what they are rather than trying to point them to whatever is right. I feel most of us have become like this. We avoid talks that brings out the difference in opinions. We are at our best when left alone, when our mistakes aren't pointed. We dont want others, even the so called friends giving us suggestions. But am I doing anything about it ? Unfortunately, No.
