One day , I was chatting with a friend of mine who had recently got married. He was excited about his romantic and happy married life. The only problem was that he had married against his parents wishes. He had sincerely sought to get the acceptance and blessings from his parents before tying the knot. While his mom had kind of agreed, his dad and others in the family didn't budge. Though he went ahead with the promise he had given to the girl, he said that now there was a guilt that his relationship and the communication with his family has become strained and limited.
More often than not our elders tend to force their choices down on their kids. Though it manifests in different forms, for different reasons, the main reason they tend to give is that they know what is better for their kids. Also, our culture forbids children questioning the elders; more so, when the elders don't have a logical reasoning behind it. Their egos are hurt which makes it more an emotional struggle.
I believe children should be taught to make decisions, to discriminate between the good and the bad, to learn from their success as well as failures. Elders should start showing some maturity, must practice and preach ideals that follow fundamental logic. They must be a guiding light - not a barricade. As for the parents who micro manage their kids and who think they know the best - firstly, they are being foolish and immature and secondly, they are producing a bunch of laborers who are trained not to think of their own, who lack originality and the courage to fail as well as to succeed ...
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